Ridin behind outboard. feel like my arms are getting ripped off

So its like this.
Im still a young doode, 19. No way in hell Im going to have an Air Nauti anytime soon, nor would my parents ever shell out for that sorta thing.

However the family 17ft outboard has taught me all i know and to respect a ride behind a good boat when I get it. Unlike some peaps I see with brand new boats, learning on a wake up past their knee's. Makes me kinda pissed.

Anyways Im kinda thinking that the direct pull from above the motor (tripod ski rope stand sorta thingy) is ripping my arms off and makes it feel like im riding 1000 times faster.

When I do get the chance to ride behind somethign with a pole or tower, it feels like im barely moving along the water.

Basically its f*cking up my learnin because Ill go for a 3 or something and it automatically throws me off axis, finding it tough to ever stay upright cuz the boat pulls so abruptly. I ride at about 20 mph , any slower and its way too hard to keep the boat at a consistent speed.

Anyone have some wisdom on how I can take the "pull" out of my pull and feel like Im not being pulled by a 5.0

ciao
Brennan