They are right. Don't do anything major, just reverse the plug. Assuming you have a standard five connector plug, which four of them are male and one is female, just revers it. When you do, you will only have four conductors used, the other two are hanging out in the wind.
If standard is 12345 connected to 12345, the reverse is 2345 connected to 1234.
Just turn it around and connect it the only way you can, then turn on your headlights and you are fine.
If this makes no sense.....call the dealer